Saying Goodbye to Old Friendships

As hard as it can be to accept, not all friendships are meant to be lifelong friendships. The reality is, even as children, we moved on from friendships for one reason or another. It could be because someone moved, interests changed, or two friends simply grew apart. As we get older, the same happens, but sometimes it can be hard to say goodbye to old friendships. Especially when friends have been in our lives for a long time or were an integral part of our lives.

It's never easy to say goodbye to old friendships. Still, you'll find some tips below that may help you navigate through this difficult time.

Understand that it's normal.

Although it can be harrowing to say goodbye to an old friend, it may help to know that it's normal to move on from friendships. We build these well-formed relationships with people because we have something that pulls us together. Whether it's working in the same office, being in the same stage of life, or merely living next door to each other. But sometimes those circumstances change, or we change, which means that sometimes those friendships aren't going to be as intimate as they were before. In some cases, those friendships can't exist for various reasons. Either way, it's normal for friendships to ebb and flow.

Appreciate the friendship for what it is

Even when a friendship end, it doesn't mean that it has never happened or the person is removed from your life. The friendships we are apart of over our life brought joy and shape us into the people we are today. Friendships were formed for a reason, and you can still reflect on those times in a positive, warm light. As you go on, you'll remember the times you had together. However, as your lives change, you may grow apart or decide to end a friendship. Nevertheless, you can still keep the friendship alive by reminiscing on moments shared together, especially those that made you smile.

Decide how to communicate.

One of the hardest parts of ending a friendship is communicating that the friendship is over. In some cases, no communication is needed. While this is easier in some ways, some people struggle with the lack of closure.

If you're in a position where a friendship needs to end, and for some reason, it needs to be brought up with the person, it can become very uncomfortable. But out of respect for your friendship, it's crucial to figure out the best way for both parties.

Some people write a letter, while some might prefer a coffee date or a phone call to communicate. It's never easy, but finding the best way for your situation will help you navigate the process.

No matter why your old friendship is ending, it's always hard to say goodbye. But understanding why and being at peace with it will be the easiest way to process your emotions and get through it.


Join the conversation: have you had to say goodbye to old friendships? Was it a mutual goodbye? Or was it let

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