We all know that we shouldn't compare our lives to others, yet we do it anyway. I've been guilty of this on multiple occasions and have caused myself a lot of unnecessary drama in my life that no one else but myself cared about.
The main reason we are told time and time again not to play the comparison game is that ultimately it only causes a lot of negative emotions that can sometimes lead to jealousy, lack of trust, resentfulness, dishonesty, rivalry, discontent, and so much more.
So why do we do it? Why do we have the obsessive belief that we somehow have to be better than others, covet what they have, or create animosity towards them for something they have no clue you are struggling with? I'm here to tell you that it's all primal and it's never going away. There are several detailed research and lengthier articles on this topic that you can find by doing a quick Google search. But I'm not here today to tell you about the Science related to why we were created the way we are. I'm here to reassure you that you're not alone and that with a little help using mindfulness, you can slow down those thoughts to be able to consciously choose the ones that can serve you better long term.
Mindfulness is being consciously aware of everything happening in the present moment. It is being aware of your mind, body, and soul. You don't have to be perfect at being mindful. The ultimate goal is to slow your thought process so that you can truly reflect on what is going on in the present.
Meditation helps boost mindfulness. When you meditate, you give your body, mind, and soul permission to reflect on the thoughts that are creating your feelings and connecting your feelings with the actions you take. You may not be perfect at meditation, but it is a powerful method and habit to form that can help increase your level of awareness. With continuous practice, you will begin noticing a positive shift in your thoughts and emotions, which can lead you to a life of joy and contentment.
Once you become consciously aware of the thoughts, you've been having you're more likely to catch yourself when the comparison game starts creeping in. Keep practicing, and you'll see the positive changes in your life surrounding any circumstance. If you'd like to begin practicing meditation, there are several apps out there that can help with self-reflection and mindfulness. My favorite is the Calm app. The link provided below is a free guest pass that you can use to try the full version of the app. I do not gain any incentives from sharing, so please feel free to use it at your leisure.
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